The Dying and the Dead

We can learn so much from the dying and the dead. When my mother was stricken with what proved to be terminal cancer in her retirement years, I asked her to teach me how to die. Actually, what she really did was to teach me how to live. Understanding that we will die someday in this short natural life of ours and what lies ahead for us in God’s Eternal Kingdom is important. But, living this natural life, in Christ, is important as well. 

My mother had been teaching me how to live all of my life by her actions and by her stories. The irony is, that by life lived, we better understand our relationship with our Creator and what He expects from us in preparation for joining Him in Eternal Life. That’s where the dying and the dead can inform us in the joy of life lived as the threshold to God’s Kingdom.

We have all lost family members and close family friends to death in their old age.  When we lose someone in their youth it seems to hurt even more. Our time for mourning their death soon disappears as we focus on their life lived.  In their dying and death we celebrate their life lived which begins to refresh our memory of how we should follow their example of the joy of living.

We learn from mourning the loss and celebrating the life of someone in their youth in a different kind of way. Their innocence teaches us about how we used to be and about the ‘what ifs’ of life. The authors of a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology write, “its how we reflect on the past that provides insight into who we are and why we are here."

Some dying or deceased family and friends can specifically encourage us with their lives when they’ve lived as St. Paul tells us in Romans 12:2, “Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.”  Those who have gone before can teach us in their absence.

We can look at the lives of those who have passed and see that each is a bit different. Each has something unique to share from their life.  While we seek the way in our lives, we want to give meaning to our life, but we don’t have to be a carbon copy of everyone else. Like those who have died, each of us, with God’s help put together our story as we borrow from those before.  When all is said and done, we have our own life storybook, just like ones we borrowed from.   

The thing we should always remember is that lives lived before ours and our present lives are very dependent upon the gift of God’s Grace, which gives us faith. Old and new natural lives live under the same conditions of seeking God’s guidance.  Some lives turn out better or worse depending on this understanding. Proverbs 3:5-6 enlighten us in saying, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.”

We learn from each other’s successes and mistakes. One of the most rampant forms of mistakes in the world involves the flesh. St. Paul speaks of this kind of sin in a very revealing way in 1 Corinthians 6:18 in saying, “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his [or her] own body.”

In all human lives, dependence on self is not the way to go. St. Paul goes on to say in Ephesians 2:8-9,  “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.”

Seeking God in our lives is the best plan as Jeremiah 29:11 states, “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”